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Dear Perfect Parent,

25 Apr

Or shall I say, to the parents I see out and about staring at me, sometimes pointing,  and piercing me with their eyes while my child is having a moment.

I see your eye rolls.  I see your glares.

I see you mouth the variety of statements from the following choices of:

“she has no control over her child”
“my child never acted like that”
or my favorite
“she needs to give him a good spanking”

Yep. I see it all right along with my fellow parents of children  deemed “different” “special” or “misbehaved”.

We see everything. But what is sad is, that you don’t.

You don’t see how desperately we want our children to be on their best behavior.
You don’t see how we want them to enjoy the same activities that your children do.
You don’t see the constant appointments that turn into disappointments, the desire to do what’s best for your child but at times not knowing what that is or even means, and you don’t see the pain that YOU cause, by  your actions.

I can’t tell you how many times YOUR actions have caused me to second guess mine.
How I have sat at a table holding my child with severe anxiety in my hands and tears rolling down my face because at times I don’t know what to do or  how to keep the world from spinning around me in slow motion, to only look at you staring across the way, judging me.

I try to be strong, I need to be strong, for my child, but your judgement, your ridicule, your disgusting lack of respect for my child and situation, make a difficult situation even worse at times. When you have a child that is already labeled “different” and reacts to life on edge at times, you simply want to crawl in a hole somewhere, and there you are, ready to throw dirt on top and bury me.

Perfect parents, I’m sorry my child is keeping you from enjoying your perfect little world. Perfect teachers, I’m sorry my child doesn’t learn the way you teach. Perfect family members & friends, I’m sorry the way I’m raising my child doesn’t line up with what you all did “back in the day”.

I’m raising my child, I’m loving him, and I’m fighting for him along with a large majority of parents out there still learning how to find the right resources for their children and fight for their needs. At times, all I can do is pray because I’m trying so hard to “love like Jesus” when your actions make me want to go off on you in public and say things which Jesus would definitely not approve of. But I leave you with this-

When you see a child having a moment in public, think long and hard about how you respond. Before judging them, before putting them in categories, and deeming  my parenting “unfit” in your eyes, just stop and think- there’s a chance it couldn’t be what you think. The child having a moment could be struggling with a disorder, disability, etc.
Everything can’t be seen with the naked eye.

To those people who are supportive- I’m not talking to you. I love you. I thank you. You give the “high fives” when moments are rough.

To my fellow mamas and papas of these special children God has blessed you with, don’t lose hope. I get it. I know it’s tough and people are mean. But we can do this. God gave us these awesome children for a reason.

Until Next Time, Much Love

SPD MOM- Steph




My Mommy (I mean Newborn) Must Haves (or favorites)

11 Aug

Hello Friends!

Because I didn’t update much while I was pregnant, I always like to use Mondays to reflect on Motherhood, and maybe even reflect back! This Monday, I wanted to share with you my Mommy must haves when Christian was a baby!!


The most incredible little things these were! I remember after Christian was born, he was super fussy one night. I didn’t know what tll the fuss was, and did everything in my power to comfort him. One nurse came in, asked if we needed anything, and we let her know our son was a little bit fussier than normal. She told us, “you swaddled him all wrong!” I watched as she picked my little 9 pounder up, and swaddled him perfectly. It was as if the gates of heaven opened, and he went peacefully to sleep. For 3 months straight, swaddlers did the trick!We really liked Halo’s sleepsacks and Summer Infant the best!


Call me paranoid, but this little device put me at east like you would NEVER believe. I was on the fence when it came to baby monitorsbut knew that I wanted one. We had friends who had lost their babies to SIDS, and had read various stories (the internet is horrible for those reasons alone), and it just made me nervous. I had heard about the SNUZA and was convinced it was the one I had to have. We loved it because it was mobile, comfortable for baby, and more than anything, RELIABLE. I remember the first night I woke up from its alarm. It scared me at first, because Christian was so still and til this day we don’t know what that brief moment was caused by or about, but SNUZA brought me so much relief. The little device clips to the child’s diaper and detects their breathing. If they aren’t breathing properly, it buzzes to alert them, and then an alarm will sound to alert you. One of my ALL TIME FAVORITE things in the world. There were a few false alarms when Christian became very active, but I appreciated it, because it let me know the product WORKED. DEFINITE must have for me.


Brilliant little seahorse! This was one of Christian’s first and FAVORITE toy of all. When Christian was a newborn we would push the Seahorse’s little stomach so that it would glow and play soft music for our baby boy. He loved it! His eyes would fixate on the little glowing stomach and he lullabies would sooth him to sleep. After 5 minutes, the little seahorse would turn off, and baby boy would be sleep. In the beginning he didn’t grasp it as much, but a time came when he was old enough he would push the little seahorse’s stomach and lay down. We have purchased other items with the same idea in mind, yet Christian always reverted back to this one. It even was packed to go on a trip with us just to keep little man happy.


I’m convinced that when you have a newborn this is the ONLY (well maybe not), but BEST way to go! Some people think why should I buy this car seat that I can only use until the baby is 20+ pounds when convertible car seats go way beyond that. HERE’S WHY: When you are out and about with baby, and you need to go in the store, out walking, etc. you will appreciate having that car seat that can go in a buggy at the grocery store, on that stroller when you are out walking, and being able to sit it down softly when you come in the house and find you have to use the bathroom badly! We had the B-Safe by Britax, and my husband and I hated almost regretted having to switch our child out to a bigger car seat!! The B safe car seat with the B- Agile was the best Travel System for us! I still use the stroller today!


The best of the best HANDS DOWN! I remember seeing my friend Jen put her baby in what to me originally seemed like some type of contraption.
I didn’t see what all the hype was about when It came to Ergobaby until I tried on several carriers. Ergobaby not only has baby’s comfort in mind but momma’s comfort as well! It felt good on my back (I had several back problems and pain after having Christian) and Christian was so snuggly in it. I used the carrier to travel, clean, and to support baby while I was out and about. If you want a good reliable carrier, pay the price and get an Ergobaby! It’s worth it!  I knew I wasn’t going to be one of those moms who had her baby wrapped up to her. The thought of wearing my baby with a wrap terrified me! Ergobaby was perfect and super easy to use!


Can we say lifesaver? After having a c section the healing process can take some time. Our pak and play was a lifesaver. My husband could move it around where it needed to be, and I could get to baby very easily. Christian loved his pak and play so much, he would fall asleep in it without a problem! I recommend pak and plays to keep baby active yet safe when they are still small.

This pillow was used for so many different things from breastfeeding to having the baby lay comfortable, etc.,I could go on and on! There is a reason this pillow is a top baby purchase until this day! It just works! We had two or three different covers that we would swap out!


Can we talk about how wonderful they are? My son was a very gassy baby and uncomfortable so many times, but these gas drops gave him sooO much relief. I read about them and had heard other mommies talking about them, but I wasn’t sure if it was the right thing for my son. Gas drops immediately calmed my son and he would sleep so peacefully. (WHERE HAVE THOSE DAYS GONE?) We loved the Little Tummys brand from Walgreens.


It deserves it’s own listing because to me when gas drops wouldn’t work, Gripe water did. Gripe Water to me was like gingerale for babies. Gripe Water would get rid of my son’s hiccups and if he was gassy it also worked for that as well. I found sometimes Gripe water worked and other times Gas Drops did. He also loved the taste of it!


It became my son’s favorite thing even more the older he got. It’s the best of both worlds: A Pacifier and Stuffed Animal. I loved it, because I could give it to my son at night in his pak and play and not worry about the cord getting wrapped around his neck or causing him discomfort. He became so fond of the wubbanub (we called it Clifford!) With it’s size, it wouldn’t get lost, Christian was easily able to hold it in his hands, and he loved it! He was heartbroken when we decided not to give him a pacifier anymore! We didn’t want a toddler walking around with a Binky!

So those are 10 of my favorite items Christian used as a newborn!! If I had to do it all over again (and who knows I just may one day), I would have at least these 10 items on hand! What are some of your favorite baby items?

Until Next Time, Much Love,

Mrs. SPJ

Birthday Fun with my Mom

8 Aug

Today, I want to wish my mom a very happy birthday!

1459228_923770290510_2001953168_nSometimes, being away from Family is hard. I miss North Carolina more than you’ll ever know!!

So Mom, let’s just pretend for a minute that I’m there.

Let’s start the day off with mani and pedis at Tony’s little Nail shop (Nail World) down the street. (We love them and have been going to them for years)

Let’s then go eat lunch at Krazy’s. I’m thinking a house salad with Italian dressing, oh and let’s ask the waitress for the ranch as well.(They taste so great together)

Let’s stop in Roses. We hardly ever buy anything there, but always seem to look anywho.

Let’s do a little shopping in the mall. Maybe J.C. Penny’s will have some great sale we can take advantage of!

Let’s kill some time hitting up some stores all around town.

It’s dinner time. I’m thinking Olive Garden. It’s one of your favorites (Kind of one of mine too since that’s where Jermaine asked me to be his wife)

Let’s finish the night with Misto Shakes from Rita’s. Gotta love that good ol Rita.

Now we are back at the house, I’m up for a scary movie, are you?

If I were in North Carolina, I believe our day would go very much like this. Don’t you think?

Well let’s just imagine the day is just like that. You can do so much with an active imagination.

Love you Mom. Miss U.

Happy Birthday,

Until Next Time, Mrs. SPJ 🙂











12 Nov

What can I say?

Clearly it keeps me busy because I don’t hardly post like I use to and Baby boy is almost 5 months old!
I will tell you though, it has been 5 of the most incredible moments of my life. 

When I first became a mother, I thought, “I can do this!”
but once he was here, there was a small part of me that screamed out, “I DON’T THINK I CAN DO THIS!”
However with time comes learned lessons, and I love being his mom!



He’s the happiest most smiling baby I’ve ever known.

Yes I still get up in the middle of the night, get thrown up on, and change smelly diapers as well as listening to him when he breathes, but he’s my little man. So please forgive me as I am adjusting to this period. I plan to share with you all of the wonders of motherhood in months to come. I’m still on this journey of being MrsSPJ with my new, most challenging yet rewarding job called Motherhood.

Until Next Time, 


A Birthday, The Dilemma, & A Winner

3 Feb

Today is a very special day!
Not only is it the day I get to share with you who the winner of my first ever giveaway is, but I get to tell you about my goddaughter, TAY TAY!
 Isn’t she the cutest? Well today is her birthday and I want to send her the biggest sweetest Happy Birthday wish ever!! She is celebrating the big 3! I think this picture is such a true testament of who she is and truly shows her for the fun loving, dance and pageant loving, silly, animated, little girl she is! I remember the day she was born, and she has been one of the best gifts!! I’m so thankful for her, and my best friend V for having her! But enough of that for now.

As I stated in an earlier post, today would be the giveaway for the Spectrum Cosmetics Eye Shadow! I printed out all of your comments, and numbered them leaving out my replies. I then went to the Random Website and asked for a Random number to be drawn and this is what came up:
I immediately thought let’s see who number 5 is. Then I scrolled down, and saw that Number 5 was none other than…

MY MOM!!!!
I THOUGHT SHE CAN’T WIN SHE DOESN’T EVEN LIKE MAKEUP, But someone said to me, to be fair,  she did comment, she followed Spectrum Cosmetics on Facebook, AND follows my blog. So technically she could win. I called to tell her the news and she laughed so hard! She then decided that it would only be fair to give the eye shadows away to 2 people that would truly use the products and enjoy them. Isn’t she the best mom ever? (LOVE HER!)
She asked that 2 other random numbers be pulled and said the first number can have 3 of the eye shadows since Taylor is 3 today, and the 2nd number  can have the other 2! So now we have 2 winners and the numbers pulled were numbers  7 and 15!

Number 7 – Caateryna
Number 15- Kerri Skelton

Those are the winners of my first ever makeup Giveaway with Spectrum Cosmetics ! The owner, Erica, is so excited that two of you will get to share in and try out her Eye Shadows! Trust me they are great! For those of you who didn’t win, don’t fret, Ill be doing more giveaways in the future (i’m excited to do so!) If you are still interested in trying Spectrum Cosmetics, you can purchase a 3 gram jar for only 3 bucks! For the time being, my blog followers, can purchase her products with a 10 percent discount! Any order you place qualifies for the discount until Valentine’s Day! All you have to do is visit the Spectrum Cosmetics Shop on Etsy and use the discount code:


If you purchase any products, please send me a message! I would love to know the colors you tried and what you think! Spectrum Cosmetics has everything from Sets, Perfurmes, Soaps, Scrubs, Mineral Makeup, Lip Products, Foundations, and Blushes!

To my Winners-
Please email (mrsstephpj@gmail.com) me your full name, address, and the colors you’ve selected! You can find the colors on by checking out Spectrum Cosmetics on Etsy! The colors are endless!

Well that’s all for now! Thanks to all that participated! It’s Friday and I’m looking forward to an a relaxed weekend! Have a good one!

Until Next Time, Mrs. SPJ 🙂

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