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Easter Remembrance 

15 Apr

It’s that time of year again when all the little girls are  getting ready to be dolled up in brand new dresses and little boys will be running around scuffing up those brand new church shoes. Ladies have picked out their perfect outfit, some with the final touch of a perfect hat, as the men prepare to get suited up  a in their Sundays best. So many of us fixated with our eyes on our appearance, and I can’t take my eyes off the cross.

I always get super emotional around Easter and I just can’t help it. The idea; the thought; the emotion behind someone dying for me, is more than my heart can even handle at times. 

I find myself going through the gospel from time to time  in disbelief, because we all know how flaky human beings can be at times, and even when Jesus asked God to “take this cup from me” he didn’t allow temptation or fear to overwhelm him. He carried out what was set before him and if that isn’t love, I don’t know what is. 

Today, as we remember the power of the cross and the depth of his love, let us not forget what it means:

1. Jesus died for us because God loves us so much. (John 3:16) Sin was keeping us from the world, and Jesus’ death became the bridge back to our father and that bridge is ALWAYS open, which means nothing we can say or do will keep us from him. 

2. God isn’t asking us to be perfect, he doesn’t expect us to be perfect ( he is) so don’t put expectations on yourself that God doesn’t even have for you! (I will get into this point more a few lines down) 

3.  God loves everyone ( go back to point one). We aren’t here to justify what is right or wrong, we are here to love and point people to the word, let them see for themselves how much God loves them and discover truth. Don’t let a “view” or “mindset” distort who God is for others. He’s pretty awesome, and here for errybody (yes, I meant it like that).

4. God wants what is best for you. That doesn’t mean life will be easy. Everything works for the good of the Lord ( Romans 8:28) Not some things, sometimes, on occasion, EVERYTHING. So just hold on, he’ll pull you through.

5. God isn’t keeping score. He isn’t condemning  u for what you have done. ((Romans 8:1) There arent bonus love points for being a pastor and news flash, there are no GOOD christians.  There is no such thing. So stop beating yourself up and telling yourself you need to be a “better” Christian. Love him, follow him, and keep his commandments. (And guess what, if you don’t, he still loves you). 

Be encouraged, friends. Stop being so hard on yourself! Oh how he loves us and I’m so glad he does and on this Easter, I just want to remind you what that love means.  It means he loves us when we do good, when we do bad and when we are in the darkest places, his light is still shining, if you look for it. You are never too far from God, and on this Easter, I hope you feel the love our Good, Good, father has for us.

Until Next time, much Love,


P.S.- I’m so in love with this shirt Lift Her Up Clothing

Expect More

5 Aug

Hello Friends!

I have to tell you about a very interesting conversation I had recently.

A lovely young lady asked me what it was like being young and married. I politely explained to her that it has its ups and downs like most things in life, but it’s what you make it.She proceeded to tell me that SEVERAL people had advised her to get even closer to her man, she should move in with him, and even, well, let me put it in her words,”test drive the car before you buy it”.I assured her while her friends may have had her best interest at heart, I could not recommend the same.

Let me take you down a stroll on memory lane.

I remember in 2008 when I truly knew that J was the one for me.
He was everything I never wanted but all that I needed wrapped up into one amazing man.

US in 2006

In my opinion, we fell for each other early on even though we were both hesitant. It was in 2009 when he proposed (such a cute story Ill have to tell you about later)
Anyhow, I was encouraged by my peers to move in with him as well when we became serious.

“What if it doesn’t work out?”, some said.

“You don’t even know what it’s like really being with him yet”, others chimed in since we had been doing this long distance thing forever.

My future hubby to be even mentioned it a few times, and the thought of it all was driving me insane.

“They are right”, I thought.

I even started thinking he may change his mind about marrying me since we did do this long distance thing forever.
After pondering it over and over again and praying about it, I just couldn’t do it.

It went against everything I believed in and the thought of me moving there before we were married, well it made me sick , even gave me headaches.

I broke the news to my “now” husband. He hesitantly was like, “well, ok”.

Now here we are, after 4 years of dating long distance, and almost 4 years of marriage, with the cutest lil man ever.

Some people are probably thinking okay Mrs.SPJ, what’s your point?

My point is, I stood by what I believed in and more than anything, I feel like my expectations, led me to more.

Just as the young woman I was having the conversation with.

I told her, to follow her heart.

In my mind, you don’t need to test drive a “man” or move in with him to see if it will work.
You put your faith in God that he will make a way and that in itself will make it work.

When you expect more, you get more.

I truly believe that is with anything.

Someone once asked me, what if my he (my husband) would have said, well then I can’t do this relationship? My response?

Well then I wouldn’t have been the one for him.

I believe God has someone for each and everyone of us, and that they should love us and accept us for who we are. They should celebrate our differences, and though we may not agree on everything, respect us. We shouldn’t have to change the beliefs that are deeply rooted in us to appease a relationship. I think that’s what is wrong with so many relationships today. We twist, turn, and change so much to accommodate others, but do we do the same for ourselves?

It’s time to expect more, and get the same in return.

Until Next Time, Much Love, Mrs. SPJ 🙂

2 years of Love!

18 Sep

Today is a super special day, because I am celebrating another wonderful year with that husband of mine!

I feel as if this has been a really great year! Our first year had its ups and downs, with me dealing with depression but I’ve come so far in this 2nd year! Although I’ve had my issues, my husband has been by my side every step of the way. He has supported me, loved me, and more importantly just been there. What a lucky girl I am! He not only provides, he makes me laugh, and knows how to deal with me and my defensive-overly emotional self.

I wanted to dedicate today’s post to him just to say Thank You.  I didn’t even post last year, partly because my husband surprised me and took me to Hot Springs, but also because I was still struggling with the whole relocation thing.

However today I’m grateful. God is so awesome, and has blessed me in so many ways I can only Thank him! Then, I have to Thank my husband for just always being there. I think that has made the most difference in my life today.

For those of you who are married, remember to always

love each other.
be there for one another.
act silly with one another.
Pray together.
Be each other’s best friend.

For those of you who aren’t married or in a relationship, remember,

God is writing your love story. I guarantee you it’s going to be an amazing story of ups and downs and even some sweep you off your feet moments! You just to give him time, and realize it’s not going to happen when YOU want it to, but when God says it’s time.

Be patient. (I tell myself this all the time about other aspects in my life!)

To my husband,

Thank you for being my best friend in the whole wide world. Also, thanks for giving me the awesome “J” in “SPJ” 😀  I love you!
Until Next Time, Much Love,

Mrs. SPJ 🙂

Some of my favorite moments from the big day 2 years ago…

1 of 3 Autumn Girls

Me & My Bestie

Kiss the Bride

Me & My Goddaughter , Taylor 🙂



Remember to Love

8 May

Well, Today is another beautiful day in May.
It’s pretty quiet here and the weather is nice.
However, in my hometown of North Carolina, today is a voting day where people must decide to vote for or against Amendment One.

The existing law states this:
“Marriages, whether created by common law, contracted or performed outside of North Carolina, between individuals of the same gender are not valid in North Carolina.”

If Amendment one is adopted, it would add to Article 14 of the constitution and basically mean this:
“Marriage between one man and one woman is the only domestic legal union that shall be valid or recognized in this State. This section does not prohibit a private party from entering into contracts with another private party; nor does this section prohibit courts from adjudicating the rights of private parties pursuant to such contracts.”

Well I’m not going to tell you how to vote, BUT I will tell you this..
Remember to LOVE.

Everything I aspire to do, everything I am, is rooted in love.

I personally don’t like to get too over involved in politics, but I do read and research, and I do vote. Too many of my ancestors fought for my right to do so.

This amendment to me is full of gaps  and seems that it will lead to the political process having way too much control over our lives. This Amendment takes away rights. Don’t believe me? Research it yourself. How It Affects Everyone

I just want us to remember to love, people. The government has enough control as it is, why would we just want to give them even more?

Secondly, I would hate to see a friend hurt or harmed from what this Amendment stands for.

So today, I just want us to focus on love.
I want for us all to strive to be happy.
To strive to live in peace.
To stop trying to allow people to take away rights that aren’t theirs in the first place.

If we sit by quietly and allow Amendment 1 and other laws go into place, well then we might as well be right back in the 50s.

Until Next Time Much Love, Mrs. SPJ



So Strategic

19 Apr

I swear,  this has been my word this year in reference to the most high.
I mean just think about it.

1. The world is saddened at the loss of “The Voice”, Whitney Houston, in February 2012.  Millions of viewers  tuned in to watch, but I believe some of them got more than they bargained for. They didn’t just have a home going for Whitney,  everyone who watched (including myself), went to church. God was ever-present and I believe touching people all over the place. I cried, I laughed, and I truly remember the words of Tyler Perry. You can hear his words below:

2. Let’s look at Jeremy Lin.
He has been the New York Knick’s main attraction lately.He received no athletic scholarships from high school, he was undrafted in college, and was assigned to the NBA Development League 3 times. He was known as a player who played sparingly and then out of nowhere he becomes a star player since he led the losing Knicks to a seven-game winning streak and scored at least 20 points in six games straight. Then he starts sharing his faith with the world and crediting God for his success.

3. Then there’s Tim Tebow.  While his mom was pregnant with him, she suffered a life-threatening infection and experienced a severe placental abruption. The doctors expected her to have a stillbirth and recommended abortion, but she decided against it, and Tim was born.  He grew up homeschooled and rooted in faith. He has been noted as one of the greatest college football quarterbacks of all time, a 2007 Heisman Trophy winner, a national champion , and a current Denver Broncos first round draft pick. During college Tebow would always wear biblical verses in his eye paint. During a championship game in 2009, he wore John 3:16 on his face under his eye. When that occurred, that verse was searched in Google for the next 24 hours 90 million times. Every time he would put a verse under his eye, the same occurred.  He even started a trend that people have called “Tebowing” (I call it praying), and it’s been defined as when you start praying even when everyone else around you is doing something different. Although I thought it strange at first, I said whatever it takes to get folks to pray and closer to God, works for me.

4. God is also strategic in placing people at the right time. Many of you who read my blog, I’m sure remember the “tire incident” where a man just came out of nowhere and fixed my tire 🙂 If that isn’t strategy I don’t know what is!

5. Then there’s today. I got in  to work this morning, and I thought hmm what should my status be today? In my spirit, I sensed “Leave him”. I thought, okay those words are definitely not for me, so what does that mean? Then the thought or feeling came to me again. I thought, okay I don’t understand this, I don’t know why I’m getting the urge to post this , but okay I’m going to do it.

Leave him. Sometimes things come in your spirit, and you don’t know why they do, but I had the strong urge to tell someone to leave him. You know it’s not right, so now you’ve just gotta let it go. There, I shared it.

A few minutes passed and I thought, well maybe its just something I should have said, then I received a pop-up message from a girl I know, and this was our conversation:

CCM: Wow! I needed that status right now. I was just praying about it and your status just popped up!

MRSSPJ: It just came in my spirit. God works like that

CCM: That was incredible and a fast answer to a prayer:)

MRSSPJ: I was sitting here and it was like a thought, a whisper, “Leave him” and I’m like okay that’s not for me. It came right as I was updating my status and I was like what should i put this morning… and I thought, okay I know this isn’t for me, and it came again, so I shared it…Thought it was a bit different, but decided to share it anyways. Well I hope whatever it is, it all works out. God knows you are too beautiful and sweet to have to deal with someone’s mess.

CCM:Well thank you for that! Sometimes I need to actually see the ”sign” right in front of me.

MRSSPJ: I understand. Sometimes we all need that 🙂

So my status was for a reason. It touched someone. Someone needed to hear that. I even had someone send me a “thanks for this” message as well.  It just goes to show you, that not only is God strategic, but that he uses people to ultimately share his love, get his message out, and save people from this crazy world. He will use you as a vessel to touch others and to spread his love.  He may be trying to tell you or show you something, but are you hearing him? Are you listening to him? It’s something to think about. So be open to being used by him, and pay close attention to what he’s doing. He has been moving and shaking things for years, we just have to open our eyes and take notice of it.

Be blessed!

Until Next Time, Much Love, Mrs. SPJ 🙂

Lessons Learned-Exes Are exs for a reason

6 Mar

I’ve learned a lot over the past 3 decades 🙂
I feel like I’ve grown a lot as well.
I’m always sharing my life with you all, but I thought I should share with you some vital lessons I’ve  learned over the years. To start this off, I thought I would talk about the “EX’s” we’ve had in our lives.

You know, there is a lot to be learn in a relationship, and sometimes even more to learn when you get out of a relationship. My dear friend, B.Scott, always says that “Exes are an X for a reason”. I must tell you I couldn’t agree more! I thought this would be a great topic to talk about because some friends of mine back home have talked about their exes and we’ve had discussions on them, and they’ve been very interesting thoughts and statements made when it comes to exes. Let me share with you why I believe exes are an X for a reason.

1. My friends always tell me how their exes treated them like dirt, how they were rude, had an attitude, or just down right abusive. Yet, in still you want to take them back. Why would you ever want to allow someone to treat you like that again? I’m not saying that people can’t change, but the fact that they do doesn’t mean they have to be a part of your life.

2.  Why go back to the past, instead of marching forward to the future? I mean the way I see it, Lot’s wife looked back and became a pillar of salt in the Bible. To me, that’s saying that you sometimes have to move on forward, or you become nothing when you go back or dwell in the past. How do you know that there isn’t something better out there for you?

3. Why would you want to take someone back who obviously decided at one point they didn’t want to be with you anymore? If you let them go, why would you want to go back to something that at one point, you didn’t think would work for you?

Please help me understand. Trust me, I know we’ve all made mistakes time and time again, but the truth of the matter is. You are beautiful. You are intelligent. YOU ARE DESERVING. That’s probably the biggest thing I want you to remember. You Deserve someone who treats you like the princess and queen you are. Someone who WILL NOT call you out of your name. Someone who will not hurt you, and Someone who will discover new reasons everyday why they love you and want to be with you (not just simply a way to get out).

I know it’s easier said than done TRUST ME, I’ve been there. But one day, you will wake up, and realize, you deserve WAY MORE and you need someone who will love and appreciate you for who you are.

I’ve been wanting to write this post for awhile because I have a very dear friend who just recently got back into a relationship with someone who was very abusive. I also have a friend back in NC considering getting back with someone and it bothers me from time to time. I know it sucks being lonely, but I always tell people, you have to give God the time to write your love story. It’s not in OUR time but HIS time. Just trust in him, keep the faith, pray, and your true heart’s desire will come true…..


Until Next Time, Mrs. SPJ 🙂

It’s V day 2012!

14 Feb

Happy Valentine’s Day Friends!!! I hope you all are having a wonderful day! I feel so Valentine-ish with my Red sweater and pink cami, mixed with black slacks and my BCBG Leopard Print Flats! I guess you could say I’m feeling all lovey dovey and maybe the Leopard Print is to throw in a hint of sexiness? HA HA! Who knows! I actually just think they are really cute with this outfit, but anywho!! Check out my V Day Look Today:

I decided to use that brilliantly bright red (Creole Tomato) from Magnolia Makeup, Spring Fling from Spectrum Cosmetics, and a deep slate color from Victoria’s Secret! Combine it with Some Victoria Secrets Sheer Cherry Gelato Lipgloss! I think the look turned out great despite the fact I’m missing my beloved Mascara! I completely forgot to put it on but oh well! It still looks great! Anywho, I won’t be celebrating Valentine’s Day today. My husband and I celebrated yesterday. He took me to the Bonefish Grill where we had the incredible Bang Bang Shrimp and two great entrees. We even exchanged gifts! I
think my gift was a hit!

J's Brigg Bowtie by Apple & Ivy

J's Lundy Bowtie by Apple & Ivy

I picked them out without ANY of his help or him even finding out! 🙂 Apple & Ivy  so graciously created them and sent them to me by V- Day! I’m so thankful and will be purchasing again from them! In return, this is what I got:

First of all, I thought, husband, why in the world are you giving me a card I can barely read for Valentine’s Day. I mean, geez, I took Spanish in College, but I wasn’t that great at it! He proceeds to tell me, it’s the greatest card ever, and he had to get it for me. Then I open my gifts, and I see Breaking Dawn Part 1. I laughed because I know he gave the movie to me because every time the commercial comes on tv my heart jumps a lil out of my chest! (LOVE that movie!) I still haven’t debated if  I’m going to return it though, because the chances of me watching it again or frequently are probably rare. I know your thinking, well if you like the movie that much, why not watch it over and over again? Why? Because that’s not me. I think I might keep it though simply because my hubby gave it to me. I just hate the idea of his money maybe going to waste? But the thought was kinda cute. Oh and I got a Nook Gift Card which is great, being that I was just thinking I needed to buy some new apps for my Nook Color.  He told me last week, that I could get a new handbag for V day if I could find one I liked, so I’m out on a mission looking for one 🙂 I then said, hey what about a new phone (because my evo shift phone is getting the best of me, and I practically hate it right now) I know, I’m pushing the button a little bit, but I mean, I NEED a working phone right? Doesn’t that classify as a need and not a want? (LOL)

Anywho, what are your plans for V day? Did you already celebrate? Are you planning to celebrate?  If not, don’t be sad. Remember, V Day is retail driven, and you really want someone who is going to show you love 365 and not just on V day. They say Valentine’s Day can be a lonely holiday for a lot of people but you just have to remember these things. Look around at all the love that surrounds you. The love from family and friends. Last but not least, when all others fail, God loves you.  I mean, he sent his son to die for you. If that’s not Love, I honestly don’t know what love is. I’m thankful he has blessed me with family and friends, but I know in my heart, that he loves me more than I can ever imagine or even hope for. That in itself, makes my heart jump out of its chest. Remember, if you don’t have that special someone yet, God is probably working on writing the greatest love story of all time, just for you. If your in a relationship that isn’t going right, and you aren’t being treated right, you have to remember that NO ONE can love you like you can LOVE yourself, or like God can love you. I know it’s easier said than done, but something to think about. With that being said, I love ya, and I thank you for allowing me to share my life with you:)

Happy Valentine’s Day Friends..

Until Next Time, Mrs. SPJ 🙂

My Card actually translates to:

“This Valentine’s Day I want you to know exactly what I feel for you.. More than you can imagine, more than words can say… I love you”

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