Dear Black Son,

25 Nov


Dear Black Son,

You are too young to know about what’s happening in the world around you, but on August 9, 2014 in Ferguson, Missouri, an 18 year old black male was fatally shot by Darren Wilson, a white police officer.  This shooting resulted in people protesting, a community upset, and a world with questions. Last night, Officer Wilson was not indicted for shooting Brown, and it left our nation in an uproar.

After the decision was made,several thoughts and emotions ran through my mind. How can this officer not be charged with anything? How is it, that I log into social media, and people are tearing Brown apart for actions that aren’t admirable, and hailing Wilson as some type of hero?  What kind of world do we live in that people constantly get away with the murdering of young black boys? Do Black Lives even Matter?

Then I remembered.

We live in a world where Stand Your Ground works for certain people, yet a mother could lose her child when he is fatally shot for wearing a hoodie walking in his father’s neighborhood.

A world, where a Black man can get 35 years for killing a police dog, but be shot 6 times with no weapon and left in the streets.

As your mother, this scares me. How, can I raise you in a world that is already set up to be against you? All I can do is :

Teach you right from wrong, encourage you to make the best decisions, but remember, there are always circumstances for our actions.

Surround yourself with positive people and spread positivity.

9 times out of 10 this will work, and at times it may just be a bit more difficult for you. Also,
Try your best NOT to be in the wrong place at the wrong time (even though at times this doesn’t even make a difference)

Regardless of race, sexual preference, or circumstance.

At the end of the day, this is always where I start. I ask God to cover you, protect you, and keep you, in a world full of so much evil and hate.

Accept the fact, that no matter how brilliant, beautiful, and bright you are my child, some people will only look at you for the color of your skin. They won’t get to know your personality, they won’t get to see how wonderful you are, they will look at you and see a young black male, The most frightening thing for me to accept, but it is a reality, which is why I pray.

My heart goes out to the family of Mike Brown, not only because of their loss, but the simple fact, that they did not get the justice they were seeking for their son. Also, that their child is being exploited and he’s not here to defend himself.

It’s time that we wake up America, and realize what is going on. I hear so many people talk about how , black people always bring up the race card, but this is our life. This is what we live. It’s not that we ASK to be the victim of racism, we are! I’m a firm believer in LOVING EVERYONE, and UNITY, but it’s hard when we live in a world so black and white.

To my white friends that don’t understand, WAKE UP! This isn’t just an AFRICAN AMERICAN PROBLEM, it’s a NATION’S Problem! ALL LIVES ARE IMPORTANT! ALL LIVES MATTER! Not just the lives of those who live with a clean slate of never doing wrong! It’s going to take ALL OF US working together to make a difference. No ONE group can do it alone.


To my black son. I love you. You are my heart. You are my life.  YOU MATTER. Your LIFE MATTERS. And don’t ever let anyone tell you any different.

Until Next Time, MrsSPJ

Black Man in America Laurie Cooper

    Black Man in America
           Laurie Cooper

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