Lessons Learned-Exes Are exs for a reason

6 Mar

I’ve learned a lot over the past 3 decades 🙂
I feel like I’ve grown a lot as well.
I’m always sharing my life with you all, but I thought I should share with you some vital lessons I’ve  learned over the years. To start this off, I thought I would talk about the “EX’s” we’ve had in our lives.

You know, there is a lot to be learn in a relationship, and sometimes even more to learn when you get out of a relationship. My dear friend, B.Scott, always says that “Exes are an X for a reason”. I must tell you I couldn’t agree more! I thought this would be a great topic to talk about because some friends of mine back home have talked about their exes and we’ve had discussions on them, and they’ve been very interesting thoughts and statements made when it comes to exes. Let me share with you why I believe exes are an X for a reason.

1. My friends always tell me how their exes treated them like dirt, how they were rude, had an attitude, or just down right abusive. Yet, in still you want to take them back. Why would you ever want to allow someone to treat you like that again? I’m not saying that people can’t change, but the fact that they do doesn’t mean they have to be a part of your life.

2.  Why go back to the past, instead of marching forward to the future? I mean the way I see it, Lot’s wife looked back and became a pillar of salt in the Bible. To me, that’s saying that you sometimes have to move on forward, or you become nothing when you go back or dwell in the past. How do you know that there isn’t something better out there for you?

3. Why would you want to take someone back who obviously decided at one point they didn’t want to be with you anymore? If you let them go, why would you want to go back to something that at one point, you didn’t think would work for you?

Please help me understand. Trust me, I know we’ve all made mistakes time and time again, but the truth of the matter is. You are beautiful. You are intelligent. YOU ARE DESERVING. That’s probably the biggest thing I want you to remember. You Deserve someone who treats you like the princess and queen you are. Someone who WILL NOT call you out of your name. Someone who will not hurt you, and Someone who will discover new reasons everyday why they love you and want to be with you (not just simply a way to get out).

I know it’s easier said than done TRUST ME, I’ve been there. But one day, you will wake up, and realize, you deserve WAY MORE and you need someone who will love and appreciate you for who you are.

I’ve been wanting to write this post for awhile because I have a very dear friend who just recently got back into a relationship with someone who was very abusive. I also have a friend back in NC considering getting back with someone and it bothers me from time to time. I know it sucks being lonely, but I always tell people, you have to give God the time to write your love story. It’s not in OUR time but HIS time. Just trust in him, keep the faith, pray, and your true heart’s desire will come true…..


Until Next Time, Mrs. SPJ 🙂

One Response to “Lessons Learned-Exes Are exs for a reason”

  1. Deborah March 7, 2012 at 5:22 am #

    That is so true! But sometimes we don’t always think about how we have been treated in a relationship. We tend to be blind when it comes to Love (if it’s even love) and that is all we see. I think ex’s are ok but you have to know where to draw the line. As far as dating someone that is abusive now that’s another story all by itself. Anyone woman who likes being with someone who puts their hands on them and hurts them do it because that is all they know. If a woman does not RESPECT herself enough then so be it. I will not let anyone put their hands on me. I just wish women would think more and stop these so called men from putting their hands on them. I say if they did it once, they will do it again! Hey ladies don’t get mad at me, but that’s my opinion. Have a great day!


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