Real House. Real Wife. Real Life.

31 Jan

That’s me.
I consider myself a REAL Housewife simply because of that.
Lately, Facebook and twitter has been flooded with comments about the drama on shows such as Real Housewives of Atlanta, Basketball Wives, etc.
I just don’t get it.
I don’t understand why so many African-American women have the chance to show themselves in a positive light, yet choose to portray us as nasty, having larger than life attitudes, vindictive, greedy, and just plain rude.  It really bothers me I tell you.  Grant it, I’m not in the same economical arena that they are in, nor do I have careers similar to them (the ones that actually have careers), but I can tell you one thing.  What is portrayed on the show is not real life, and for those of you who know people who base how African-American women are solely off of this, it is inaccurate.  A lot of the women on these shows, blame the editors and producers of the show, but there is only so much that an editor can do. My life might not appear interesting enough to qualify for “high ratings” according to television standards, but I’m pretty blessed.  Here’s a snippet to my Real Housewife episode:

I have an amazing hubby who is probably the most sarcastic person in the world, but he is addicted to running and  good food. He even cooks sometimes and brings it up on a tray to our room (which makes him the world’s best husband)
I work out with an amazing group of girls and have an amazing Instructor during the week.
I have the greatest friends and family a girl could ask for, and I talk to them quite often.
I have several children in my life that I’m obsessed with (none my own) and I would secretly kidnap them all if I could (and that’s okay, their mothers wouldn’t mind)
I work day in and day out for a non-profit that is changing lives everywhere around the WORLD and the only organization like it in the U.S. (pretty awesome)
I like to hangout with friends and have dinner parties and play games that make me probably look ridiculously stupid.

That’s my life. That’s what God gave me. And I think it’s pretty awesome. My husband and I don’t always get along, but hey, that’s life. It’s not drama filled. We don’t yell at each other. I’m not screaming at my girlfriends or starting drama, or some he said/she said mess. You know why? Because that’s not real life. Real life consists of getting up everyday, thanking God for what he gave ya, and making life work no matter what your circumstances are. It’s loving and appreciating your family and friends, knowing that time is never promised, and each minute or second given is a blessing. It’s about taking what you have and making it work, and giving something back to this world. It’s about using up every minute with no regrets and making life worth it!

It’s not a drama filled episode of screaming and yelling and acting a fool. If anything, some of these shows should be an example of “how not to act”. It really kills me how some of these girls watch these shows, and try to mimic what they see, when it’s really not cute at all. I don’t even watch the shows. However, I hear about the drama on the radio, and I read about it because it is showcased everywhere! The only area that I’m guilty in is because I do love watching “The Braxtons” but that is due to my love for Toni and the sisters. There are areas in which they could improve as well.

Am I saying that I’m perfect? Absolutely not.
What I am saying though, is that we have to do better.
Not only as African American Women, but Women in general.
We have to stop beating ourselves up and participating in all this drama and getting ourselves involved in nonsense.
Let’s be role models for our sisters, cousins, daughters, future daughters, and friends. We can’t do anything about what’s on TV, but we can choose to look away, turn it off, or set examples for others..

Real House. Real Wife. Real Life. That’s ME 🙂

Until Next Time, Mrs. SPJ 🙂

3 Responses to “Real House. Real Wife. Real Life.”

  1. Deedee February 1, 2012 at 12:32 am #

    Really enjoyed this!!


    • SPJ February 1, 2012 at 3:53 am #

      Thanks so much! I appreciate the feedback!


  2. Kadeejia Irvin February 1, 2012 at 4:42 pm #

    Love the honesty in this post Step! I’ll keep my life as it is, over all the drama these shows portray any day!


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