What happened to Sandra Bland?

23 Jul

What happened to Sandra Bland?

The beautiful young vivacious woman who supported movements like “Black Lives Matter” and who wasn’t afraid to voice her opinion about racism and other madness going on in this world.

What happened to the young woman who spoke firm that being a black person in America was hard?

On July 13, Bland was found hanging from a noose made from a plastic bag in her cell at the Waller County Jail in Texas after being pulled over due to failing to signal a change in lanes. She was arrested for supposedly assaulting an officer during a July 10 Traffic stop, but my question is…

How does a traffic stop lead to a young woman, DEAD?

What is happening to my fellow brothers and sisters in police custody?

What about Kindra Chapman, 18, found dead in her jail cell?

What about Phillip White or Victor White?

This post is not a vicious attack against police officers because clearly I know some of the finest officers of the law. HOWEVER, I cannot deny that something is happening, that leads me to ask, DO BLACK LIVES MATTER?


I also keep seeing, All Lives Matter.

But until ALL LIVES are treated the same in today’s society, how can you even post #alllivesmatter,


We need to keep having these discussions, and work together to figure out what it will take for our country to truly believe that All Lives Matter. It is not okay if all lives matter to some people, but not to others, and that seems to be the history that has continued to repeat itself. Racism does exist, and to be quite honest, it never went away.

What happen to just loving one another?

And how can you repost pictures saying that love wins, when hate is killing everyday?

Love should win for EVERYONE.

Let’s find Justice for Sandra Bland and for the other Sandra Blands and Freddie Grays that fail to get the media coverage they deserve.

What happened to Sandra Bland?

Cj turns “TWO-DLES”

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My little guy turned 2 last week and I still can’t believe it!
In honor of his birthday, we opened up “Christian’s Clubhouse” for an unforgettable “TWO”dles event!

After feeling a bit uneasy and rushed after Cj’s First Birthday party, I knew that I wanted this year to be different. It wasn’t too hard to find a theme being that my son is obsessed with Mickey Mouse Clubhouse!  However, I wanted to do something a bit different than the norm. No red, black, and white, and I wanted to incorporate all of Mickey’s friends!!!

Since we knew the theme, picking out colors was next. I picked red (of course), aqua/sky blue, and yellow! I wanted his clubhouse themed party to be fun and colorful just like he is! After that, I started trying to think of decorations that would go with his theme. I searched pinterest all over for unique and fun Clubhouse party ideas (there were way too many)
I saw this really cute idea on pinterest to do centerpieces that represented all things Mickey, but I didn’t want to go overboard. I combined centerpieces with balloons and that was the setting for the table! I just saw a picture and my husband designed the centerpieces. If you do a simple search on Etsy, you can find some amazing centerpieces! I just wanted to go the diy route!

Next in the planning process came picking out games. I wanted games that babies and toddlers could enjoy, but I wanted it to have a clubhouse theme. I wanted to link all games to the character’s cj loves most as well as make it easy for parents to grasp! All kids in attendance recieved what I like to call “The Toodles Sticker Card”

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Each child was encouraged to visit at least 4 out of the 8 stations, play the games, and get the chance to earn a sticker at EACH station! Once your “Two’dles card had 4 stickers, you could turn it in for a prize! Here are the stations we had:

Mickey & Minnie Golf 
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This set was purchased at Walgreens and was the perfect size for lil Mousketeers! You can also do a search for some online, they aren’t that expensive (under 15 bucks)

Daisy’s Rings & Things
Another great Walgreens purchase! It’s just a simple ring toss game! However Daisy and her fabulous splendor are all about rings & things!


I totally forgot to take a picture of this game, but my husband designed a poster of Donald without a bowtie. Bowties were then glued to foam board and viola! You could also do pin the ear on Mickey using your child’s photo which is something I’ve seen a lot of other people do! I just wanted each friend to be represented in the clubhouse!!!

I purchased this bin for about 8 bucks at Target and we cut up some water noodles to “bury” the treasure! Dogs are great at hiding things, so if you could go through Pluto’s hidden treasure, you would find great age appropriate prizes you could keep! Some of the prizes included, but not limited too, bath toys, Disney necklaces, trucks, balls, etc, flash cards, etc.

This was probably my favorite! We took about 200-400 ball pit balls and filled up an inflatable pool with them!
I do not recommend this exact pool, but the game was great! It was big enough for the big kids, but perfect for the baby mousketeers too!

My son loves his water table, so we thought, why not let the other kids enjoy it as well? This one was purchased from Babies R Us last year on sale! I’m sure you could find the same! They have all kinds!

My husband is quite the artist, (he did all of the artwork in Cj’s Room), so we figured we would set out some canvases, paint markers, and let children become their own little Picasso! The great thing about this game is at the end, you have an interesting beautiful keepsake, from your child’s birthday party!

My son could play the Clubhouse Toss for hours! You can find kiddy versions online, but they are either too cheaply made and would break or wayy to expensive so my husband made the one for the party. He even added a painted touch!

We had such a blast and I’m really happy with the way everything turned out! I saw lots of smiling faces and even my lil guy seemed to be having a good time!
Pinterest and Etsy really will be your best friend and don’t be afraid to get creative on your own!!!!!

Here are some Freebies! Please feel free to use what you need!!!

Twodles Birthday Sticker Card
Mickey Head Centerpiece
Mickey Hand Centerpiece
Mickey Pants Centerpiece
Red Stars Centerpiece
Yellow Stars Centerpiece
Clubhouse Sign


I hope you have a fun Mickey Party as we did! Check out some more fun pictures below! If you have any questions, please feel free to leave them below!

How awesome are these photos from my dear friend and photographer Pier Nguyen?

If you are in the Little Rock area book him!


Today I wear Purple

19 May Rest In Peace
Oct. 8, 1969- Jan. 16. 2015


Today I wear Purple.

It’s not simply because I think it’s a beautiful color.

It’s not because I’m trying to get in with some fancy trend.

I wear purple for those who fight daily while their bodies fight back.

I wear purple for those who live with the invisible illnesses that fall under
Inflammatory Bowel Disease.

I wear purple for those who have good days and bad days, with a disease that flares it’s ugly head up when it feels like it.

I wear purple for those who have illnesses that are blind to the eye, which makes it blind to those not living in pain.

I wear purple for those who start to feel like “maybe it really is all in our heads” because those not living with it, make them feel as if their pain “isn’t a real disease”.

I wear purple for those who sometimes refuse food, because they know what follows, and those who just don’t want to get up in the morning because they don’t have the strength to.

I wear purple for those wanting comfort, wanting answers, and needing a cure.

I wear purple to help spread the word about Crohn’s, Colitis, and IBD, so that we can find the cure for those living with it, and to help those who don’t, understand it a little better.

I wear purple today for Dwight.
Simply, because he can’t.

                            Rest In Peace                                                   October 8, 1969- January 16, 2015

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A loss & Arrival

18 Jan

Early on my 310917423_10100273058226660_8342578752251464810_n3 birthday, January 16, 2015, I received a phone call, that my beloved 1st cousin had passed away. This news has been devastating for me and my family, since we lost his mother just 2 years ago… (Aunt Artie) Friday, I was exhausted with all of the phone calls, details, and a small birthday gathering, so late last night, I really had some time to sit and think. I found myself up in the middle of the night, and I did something I haven’t done in a long time. I wrote a poem for what was on my heart.




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Shock and stunned you arrived,
This is different than before.
Not a nighttime of hanging with the Buddies,
you came upon the golden door.

“What am I doing here?” you thought,
“I was just asleep?”
“You belong here with me child,”
They said, “these wings, for you to keep.”

“What about those I have left behind?,
They will miss me terribly.
I’m the life of the party, everyone’s friend,
what about my family?”

“My dear,” the angel sweetly said,
“They’ll grieve but they’ll be fine.
No one will understand it at all,
But everything in God’s time.

We have a place right here for you,
a golden guitar and magical keys.
The world’s greatest soundboard
you could ever imagine, drums too,If you please.

The angels will get to enjoy you sing
So don’t feel sad and blue.
Although this is a lot to grasp,
Your heavenly father has been waiting for you.”

“But I must go back, they need me there,
I bring smiles to everyone!
They won’t understand, they’ll be heartbroken,
when they find out that I’m gone. ”

“They will, but life’s a journey,
and sometimes it just ends.
Without a notice, without a reason,
that’s simply life, my friend.

But I promise, you will love it here
you are free, what a better place you are in!
No more hardships, No more ailments,
No more pain, and no more sin.”

With that he smiled and scratched his head,
but walked on forward,As he should.
But then he couldn’t believe his eyes,
In front of him, there she stood.

He ran and embraced her,
and began weeping quietly.
“Your home now son,” she said,
“it’s time for you to rest easily.”

She was so beautiful, and smiling,
“come on “she said, “I have a treat.
Remember my dog, screechy? He’s here!
Now there’s someone special I want you to meet.”

She took him in to meet God, who said,
“I’m so glad you are here.”
They talked. They laughed, and it all made sense,
Everything became clear.

“It’s not for them to understand, ” Dwight said.
“For some this will be a test.
I get it now, they love me,
But God you’ve always loved me best.

Its all in your plan, you make no mistakes,
You always see your will through. ”
Artie said, “you understand now son.
I’ll take you to see Pop Pop too.”

With that, they went along in heaven,
though we feel an empty space.
Our new angel says, ‘Don’t cry for me,
I’m now in a happy place.”

So as the tears fall, and our hearts our broken,
we will need some time to grieve.
But remember the good times, always smile,
stay positive, always believe.

Love everybody, be a good friend,
help each other, stay kind.
Remember our beloved Dwight and know,
you’ll see him in due time.

Stephanie Jones
January 17, 2015
12:30 am

Resolutions.. NOT.. Just be Better

6 Jan the-only-person-you-should-be-better-than


I know. I know. I’ve been ghost.. However for very good reasons!
The Fall/Winter season and holidays at my job are the busiest time! So many folks in need, So many people to assist, etc… I love all that we do, but it does keep me from the things I like to do in my spare time. Things like… Writing on my blog. I’d love to tell you that I’m going to post faithfully, and though it is my goal, it does not always happen!

People keep asking me what my new year’s resolution is. Of course, a million ideas came to my mind! Things like,
Lose Weight (Captain Obvious here) and Exercise More (Captain Obvious, again!). However, after overloading my brain, I just decided, I want to be a better me. I want to be better in all aspects of my life. I want to be a better friend, follower of christ, mom, wife, blogger, etc. (Not in that order but you get the idea.)

So I urge you to do the same! Stop making these resolutions that are darn near impossible to meet! Just strive to be a better you! That way, you work on everything a lil at a time!!!!

Here’s to the New Year!!

Until Next Time, MrsSpj :)


Dear Black Son,

25 Nov


Dear Black Son,

You are too young to know about what’s happening in the world around you, but on August 9, 2014 in Ferguson, Missouri, an 18 year old black male was fatally shot by Darren Wilson, a white police officer.  This shooting resulted in people protesting, a community upset, and a world with questions. Last night, Officer Wilson was not indicted for shooting Brown, and it left our nation in an uproar.

After the decision was made,several thoughts and emotions ran through my mind. How can this officer not be charged with anything? How is it, that I log into social media, and people are tearing Brown apart for actions that aren’t admirable, and hailing Wilson as some type of hero?  What kind of world do we live in that people constantly get away with the murdering of young black boys? Do Black Lives even Matter?

Then I remembered.

We live in a world where Stand Your Ground works for certain people, yet a mother could lose her child when he is fatally shot for wearing a hoodie walking in his father’s neighborhood.

A world, where a Black man can get 35 years for killing a police dog, but be shot 6 times with no weapon and left in the streets.

As your mother, this scares me. How, can I raise you in a world that is already set up to be against you? All I can do is :

Teach you right from wrong, encourage you to make the best decisions, but remember, there are always circumstances for our actions.

Surround yourself with positive people and spread positivity.

9 times out of 10 this will work, and at times it may just be a bit more difficult for you. Also,
Try your best NOT to be in the wrong place at the wrong time (even though at times this doesn’t even make a difference)

Regardless of race, sexual preference, or circumstance.

At the end of the day, this is always where I start. I ask God to cover you, protect you, and keep you, in a world full of so much evil and hate.

Accept the fact, that no matter how brilliant, beautiful, and bright you are my child, some people will only look at you for the color of your skin. They won’t get to know your personality, they won’t get to see how wonderful you are, they will look at you and see a young black male, The most frightening thing for me to accept, but it is a reality, which is why I pray.

My heart goes out to the family of Mike Brown, not only because of their loss, but the simple fact, that they did not get the justice they were seeking for their son. Also, that their child is being exploited and he’s not here to defend himself.

It’s time that we wake up America, and realize what is going on. I hear so many people talk about how , black people always bring up the race card, but this is our life. This is what we live. It’s not that we ASK to be the victim of racism, we are! I’m a firm believer in LOVING EVERYONE, and UNITY, but it’s hard when we live in a world so black and white.

To my white friends that don’t understand, WAKE UP! This isn’t just an AFRICAN AMERICAN PROBLEM, it’s a NATION’S Problem! ALL LIVES ARE IMPORTANT! ALL LIVES MATTER! Not just the lives of those who live with a clean slate of never doing wrong! It’s going to take ALL OF US working together to make a difference. No ONE group can do it alone.


To my black son. I love you. You are my heart. You are my life.  YOU MATTER. Your LIFE MATTERS. And don’t ever let anyone tell you any different.

Until Next Time, MrsSPJ

Black Man in America Laurie Cooper

    Black Man in America
           Laurie Cooper

The Roof is On Fire!

23 Oct

The past few days have been hectic at my job because we are finally getting some work done on this old house we call our office.
Today, I looked up to see the beautiful roof the men worked so hard on. It’s beautiful. A pretty light gray color, and it lays so perfectly.
Then I looked at our old building. Our office building is pretty tattered, and we could use a new building altogether. It was then,
God spoke to me. He said, “You can’t put a new roof on an old building“.

It was such a profound message, I had to stop and appreciate it!

It reminded me of all the passages in the Bible that talk about the importance of a Strong foundation.
I  also reminded me  of Matthew 9:16, “No one sews a patch of unshrunk cloth on an old garment,
for the patch will pull away from the garment, making the tear worse”.

It was such a special message, I went and shared it with a co worker. She reminded me that sometimes, you have to get your roof fixed. My belief, is that by starting over, building a new, SOLID ROCK foundation, it will make us new all over! I believe that is what God wants for us. He wants to make us new, rebuild our foundation, and change us all over. God can fix ANYTHING! He can restore us, renew us, and ultimately set our roof on FIRE! God loves us, and he wants so much for us!

Let us pray that God will fix us from the inside out! That he can strengthen our hearts, our foundation, our lives and make us new! Afterall, if anyone can, he can!

Until Next Time, Much Love, mrsspj
P.S.- This post will be featured on Sprinkle Of Jesus soon!

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